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“Stuck” meaning
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When you say “It’s stuck” and “it got stuck” the word stuck should be either adjective or past tense of verb right? ir is this completely different word. “I was stuck in the room.” “my hair’s stuck in the fan.””the hair stuck on the wall”
Top Comment: Like many verbs, the past participle of “to stick” is an adjective describing the object of the verb.
What does it mean to be “Stuck on” something?
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I’ve never understood what it meant to be stuck on things or people for observing/deciding. Does it mean you can’t make decisions with confidence concerning it? Does it mean you’re overconfident with a decision but it caters too much to one side?
Top Comment: It feels like a problem is unresolvable and will be there forever
What does "stuck" mean in this context?
Top Comment: Here “stuck” refers to how they, as a group, are not sure how to proceed. It seems there’s a divide at the conference between an older way of doing things and a newer one. Hope this helps! Example: I am stuck between getting a new car or a used one
[Highlight] Guy stuck on flag at Steelers-Jets game : nfl
Main Post: [Highlight] Guy stuck on flag at Steelers-Jets game : nfl
[OC] We had the unfortunate luck to be stuck behind these jerks : IdiotsInCars
Main Post: [OC] We had the unfortunate luck to be stuck behind these jerks : IdiotsInCars
[Serious] Redditors who have felt stuck in life, how did you break free? And more importantly how did you stay free?
Main Post: [Serious] Redditors who have felt stuck in life, how did you break free? And more importantly how did you stay free?
Top Comment: Continuous action. I quit focusing on the results and instead directed my attention and evaluation of success, on a daily basis, to what actions I was taking to 1. provide myself with income 2. get closer to a long term goal I had. Basically working and then focusing on trying to improve at what I wanted long term. I didn't know what I wanted long term, so I started out with trying to get a better understanding of a particular area of business in a particular field. In taking that action I got a little bit more of an idea as to what area of business I was interested in, while also feeling like I had improved a little bit. This helped to increase my intrinsic motivation, which in turn made me want to learn more. Basically it helped to motivate me to WANT to do the next right thing for myself, which seemed like it was to read up some more and watch some videos about a particular field of interest. Without realizing it, this started creeping into my work where I noticed things I hadn't before, and it didn't seem quite as mundane, especially since I felt like I was living with a little bit of purpose. It was only through learning about things that I wasn't all that interested in that I realized what I was drawn to, and as I learned more about that, it because much easier to realize little things that I could start to do to gain some experience in that field. Like if you eventually realize you are interested in Marketing, and you start reading more about what that entails, you start to see things like entry level volunteering opportunities that you can do on the weekend with a AA baseball team. Doing that doesn't mean you are magically going to be offered a full time six figure position, but it gets you further exposure of how certain types of marketing are done in practice, rather than just theoretically. Not only does this then serve as a networking opportunity, it also allows you to better focus your own individual learning, while also getting to parlay the experiences of others you may encounter to better focus your time and energy. Basically it was all about taking some action, and not going into it with the expectation that it has to produce a tangibly beneficial result to be a success. Because it's through this type of trial and error that we not only become more well rounded, but also become more confident in our own abilities and potential. It helps create good habits, stronger feelings of mental wellness, and basically helps us become more well rounded individuals all the while exposing us to different opportunities we never would have thought we might come across in different situations. Things start to build on themselves in ways we can't predict, but the bottom line is I can't think my way into right acting, I have to act my way into right thinking, which really is just taking actions that are an attempt at bettering myself or pursuing something constructive that makes me happy. Hopefully that makes some sense, and I hope you have a good one.
Feeling Stuck In Life? Learn How To Get UNSTUCK FAST!
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Feeling trapped in life
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Hello, I need some advice. Im feeling trapped in my life. Trapped in my 9-5. Trapped with a car I dont want that I cant sell. Trapped in a city I hate. Trapped in a lifestyle. I just feel like I’m suffocating right now trying to live up to other people’s expectations on how I’m supposed to live and now I have so much debt and obligations I feel like I cant get out. I want to set it all on fire and just walk away but dont know how.
Problem is, I dont know what else I would do. I have no skills besides playing music and a handful of other equally useless talents to fall back on. Hell, i dont even have a college degree. At most the only ideas I have are to drop everything and cycle the US or leave town and start over but I know in the latter case my same problems will follow me. How do I find alternative to help me break free from this horrible, empty life?
There has to be more to life than this...
Top Comment: hey buddy, lots of people feel that same way you do. i did, still do. at age 32, was stuck as server, couldnt get into professional programs i wanted (probably because i didnt really want to go because of the debt), not particularly good at anything except maybe reaching for stuff on the high shelf. have a car i cant sell and dont want. i love my dog, but he's clingy and gets depressed if im not around and that makes me feel guilty. felt like people used me because im a doormat, im 'nice'. i tried moving halfway across the country in the middle of pandemic would help. now im isolated to my studio i can barely afford. as the saying goes, your shadows follow you. what i mean is, maybe 'starting over' isnt going to help, but rather building on and towards something from where you are is better. you cant change yesterday you, and not even today you. but today you can take steps that future you will say, hey thanks "past me". put yourself out there with your music and supposed 'equally useless talents'. record, live stream, even for 2 mins to start. i hate my voice and i dont read very well, but im trying to just record me reading out loud and posting it up. worst case? internet trolls. best case? you sharpen your skills and get feedback and might spark new opportunities cheers my dude
Feeling Stuck In Life
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Hi everyone. Has anyone ever felt stuck before? Like I live the same day over again. I know for a fact I mentally cannot do this same crap for the next 40 years. I graduated in 2019 with my bachelors in business administration. I work in Human Resources for a corporate staffing firm and bring home $33k a year after taxes with almost 2 years of experience. I work from home so I try not to complain about the pay but sometimes it wears on me. I’m 27 going on 28 ,have never left my parents house/lived on my own and now couldn’t afford it even if I wanted to. I pay $500 a month in rent and I have yet to find something similar near me in Florida. I’ve been thinking about going back to school for nursing or maybe tech. I just need to make more money and in my opinion that would solve about half of my problems. Should I start all over and go back to school or should I stick it out and try to climb the corporate ladder? I feel like such a loser still living with my parents and never have left before.
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Without having to go back to school, I think the best bet for you at this time would be to switch companies. Assuming you are good at your job and are always learning, you should be able to continue moving up in roles.
Switching companies every few years is an excellent way to get a pay bump. Being loyal to the same company for years mostly benefits the employer by keeping your pay low.
If anyone is feeling stuck/demotivated in life you need to hear this !!
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Long post !! I don't know who this post is for but if I could share my 2 cents on this i would . There are two main reasons you may feel stuck ,
- You don't have the motivation to do anything and don't know where to go
First of all there is no such thing as motivation it's just some residual momentum people have in the mornings so if you are thinking that motivation is gonna come someday you are wrong . momentum builds up over time for example you have brushed your teeth for many years and took a bath the tasks are soo trivial you don't hopefully need motivation to do them. The things in life are kinda like that , if you wake up everyday and start working for some time after couple of weeks you will pass barrier of demotivation but ya the first week is gonna be hell . And another point was i don't know what to do in life .... nobody does if you think people figured out life you are wrong some people have a clear picture of the life they want some don't there is nothing wrong with that ....just pick one thing and start doing it i don't belive there is a thing called passion even if it it's short term, i have seen people destroy their lives over supposed passion , because the whole movement is you need to be happy doing the work you do while i believe it's true to some extent initially the work you are doing is gonna involve some complexity and our brains don't like complexity , so we give up on shit and say to ourselves it's not my passion it's bs in my opinion
2. Stopp using numbing devices
By numbing devices I mean your dear old social media Facebook insta and particularly worse Twitter...they suck up your energy they numb your emotions down like alchol and you feel like a brain dead zombie scrolling through them instead read books .....I'm always a huge proponent of philosophy read whatever philosophy you are into be it indian or western it will stretch your mind a lil and will force you to think ....and if something isn't forcing you to think deeply then maybe it's a numbing device that's a good criterion.
If you also think there are other reasons as well add it below , if you got some value out of it upvote so more people can read it
Top Comment: *doesn't do anything * cribs about not doing anything* doesn't do anything * How do you get out of this?
24 and I totally failed life. Depressed and stuck. i dont know what to do or even can do
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Hi. I always considered myself an unstoppable force regarding my dreams, goals and aspirations. I was goal driven an insatiable regarding learning and self-improvement.
I was the golden child in a family full of screw-ups, and my family did everything they could to help me through college. I chose a stupid, selfish and useless degree (Sociology) that even then I knew had zero career options. I have a 40k weight on my shoulders.
I lucked out after graduation by "gap year work-traveling" to screen the actual fact that I had no skills or qualifications besides foreign language aptitude gained after a year abroad (the only time, literally ever, that I was happy). I did Americorps with various conservation corps; the work is fun and rewarding, but no career (im talkong literally 2-3$ an hour in brutal conditions). I was dreaming of gaining experience so I could work for the Park Service, Forest Service, or BLM. I got medical certifications and trainings (WFR, S-212 Chainsaw) all in hope of increasing my odds. But it didnt work. The positions are way too competitive and often just rely on a lucky break (which i hate thinking about, i prefer hard work towards a goal).
So now im fucked. I cant afford to work for free (which is what non gov trail work pretty much is) anymore, but ive developed no other work experience except manual labor and experience on a political campaign. My "gap travel year" of working all across the country ended in failure, unless you count merely gathering experiences (but not experience) as worthwhile.
I didnt learn Photoshop and Illustrator, but i should have. I spent years learning arcane aspects of long dead languages, but I never spent time with Java or Python. I should have
Im stuck in rural Arizona, at my family home, a complete loser and disappointment to everyone. I have no car, no money, no friends, and nothing except for a smartphone and a kindle as far as posessions go. I made applying and working towards a career my job, 10 hours a day appying and writing cover letters for the past few weeks. Then my computer broke, and doing the same with only a smartphone is exponentially more difficult. My one purposeful activity I had left was taken from me.
Im totally stuck and abandoned, im just so fucking lonely and miserable and ashamed of myself for having had so much potential, trying to do all the right things (go to college, not do drugs, drink or smoke, not waste time on videogames or tv but work out and read instead) and just be totally boned. Im not qualified for much it seems, but the idea of working at a chain in a strip mall for minimum wage (the closest things to me) and being stuck in rural arizona just makes me want to collapse and never get up. I done goofed. I used to stand so tall and was so arrogant, and now I cant look anyone in the eye and just suck. Fuck.
These are my best years and they are just passing me by. I dont even want to wake up in the morning. Its xmas eve and im writing this. My fam is all around and i cant stand to even look at them for my shame in having turned out such a loser.
I know the neurological aspects of depression are combated with activity and movement, and i am an avid hiker and workout lover, but I have no running shoes (just work boots and work shoes), so no running. I love to hike and there are mountains close enough, but entrance to hike costs money! So getting out and about in the middle of nowhere isnt even possible.
I haaaaate feeling sorry for myself, ornplaying the victim, and i take full responsibility for where I am today. I was happy to congratulate myself when life was good, i must do the same when shit has totally fallen apart. It just is a sucky feeling and idk what to do.
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You're 24, and have had experiences many people your age have not. You're still extremely young. There are people who retire from jobs in their 40's or 50's and go on to have entirely new and different careers. You are less than a quarter decade old. You likely have another 50-70 years ahead. Shift directions, make shit happen, and become successful in whatever manner of 'success' you're aiming for.
I still feel stuck and I have trouble finding a reason to keep going.
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Hi everyone. This is not my first post on this sub, but I still feel the need to empty my heart.
This summer has been one of the worst of all my life. I hit 23 a couple of weeks ago, and I still feel lost and powerless, despite spending the last year trying to work on myself (it would be too long to mention all the things I did, why I did it and the results it gave me, so instead I'll just mention it later in the comments if I ever need to). My social skills did improve somehow, but they still haven't been proven enough to make what I would consider real friends at work. I finally got the opportunity to talk a little more to my crush of three years, before learning that she had been going out with one of my ex-superiors since a couple of months ago, which made me develop an inferiority complex towards the guy. I tried to not take it too personal, but I couldn't help but take it as a defeat, and thinking that with the way I keep handling things all the girls I get attached to will always get taken before I start feeling ready to confess my feelings. It really damaged the confidence I had started to build over the year. This summer was an opportunity for me to try to go out, put myself out there and put my progress to the test, but of course, with covid 19, I couldn't do anything. And I won't be able to do much until all the mesures get taken down, which could be only in a couple of months from now. And even then, I'm probably still gonna be buisy with my classes.
Speaking of studies, the first trimester of my master's degree has just started. It's in a different field than the one I did my bachelor in, since I felt this was not what I was looking for. I was hoping that this would be a new beginning, that I would finally feel a sence of purpose and be motivated. Now I've only had three classes yet, but I already feel a lack of interrest similar to the one I had felt in my other field of study. I still struggle to focus on the lectures, as well as on the texts I have to read, despite trying my best to give it my attention. My mind just starts wandering anywhere else. And all the assignements feel as overwhelming as they where before. I know I'll probably be able to get through it just like I did with the previous ones, but it's not only about passing now, it's also about preparing myself for the field. I am gonna need to master all these concepts if I want to be competent enough for my future job, and right now I don't feel like I'm gonna be able to do it. Could it be that this field is not made for me? Maybe, but what would be the point of leaving it when no other field interrests me much anyway? At least with this one I would be able to get a stress-free job in a library or something, even if it's a little boring. And if I decided to change field, it would further delay my entry into the work place, which I want as fast as possible. I still live with my parents since it makes a lot more sense on a financial level: until I get a real job, I won't be able to afford an appartment for myself without a lot of struggles. But it makes me feel trapped, like my freedom of movement is severely restrained as long as I live there. I have a strong need to manage things the way I want, but I can't because it's not my own house. And going out to meet people is hard since I live far away from everything interresting.
About a week or two ago, I heard about the Ni-Fi loop and realized it explained a lot about my behavior. I feel like I have been experiencing this loop a lot since a couple of years ago. I felt relief at the time, because I though I had finally found the root of my problems, and fixing them would now be a lot easier. Thus, I started to train my Te by trying to avoid using my Fi too much (usually by suppressing my stressful thoughs as they where surfacing), getting productive (doing immediatly any chore that took less than 5 minutes to do) and trying activities that help exercise my strategic skills, mainly by getting into chess. But it doesn't seem to be enough. For chess, I still struggle to keep my focus on a strategy: it requires tons of efforts from me to keep the image I'm building in my mind to fade away (I've always struggled with that, wether it's for counting or doing mental math, and it seems to have only gotten worse with time). Usually, it's just too hard for me to apply in an efficient way. And while I can try to suppress my emotions, I'm starting to wonder: what would be the point anyway? What I'm looking for is happiness, and I don't think I can achieve that while being in an emotionless state. And suppressing my emotions gave me tons of regret. Focussing on being reasonable is what kept me from confessing to my crush before it was too late, for one.
In the end I feel aimless, powerless and unmotivated. I have nothing to look forward to in the near future, only stress, doubts and loneliness. The only thing that brings me comfort is listening to music and playing on guitar, and while it helps me a lot with coping, it's still far from being enough. I don't know how to find happiness: the only way I can imagine to attain it is to try out some things (but even then my options are limited because of the covid mesures) to see if it's what I'm looking for, but none of these things are garanteed to bring me happiness. Plus, getting to the stage of being able to determine wether or not it makes me feel good is something that requires me to overcome huge obstacles before I even get to it. The one thing I long for right now if to have someone to cherish, love and protect, that can love me for who I am and that can be a shoulder to cry on. But I would have a hard time to find someone like that: the fact that I'm so desesperate might make me unattractive to girls I like. There's another girl at my work, but even though she's pretty cute, I'm not really into her as a person, which seems to be the exact reason why she seems to be into me. So basically, unless I take into account the possibility that I find the perfect match (which I prefer not to, since it would rely on pure luck), I have two choice: either to be alone, or to be with someone I'm not really in love with, which would defeat the purpose. This reality makes me frustrated sexually, but also, and on a much bigger proportion, emotionally.
I feel like I've been wasting years of my life for far too long now and I want things to change, but I feel powerless. I'm tired of feeling so hopeless. Do you have any advice for me? I would really be thankful.
Also, I feel it would be important to mention that I have been diagnosed with depression, ADHD and generalized anxiety disorder, since they are probably factors at play too.
Edit: I forgot to mention that I do have a therapist. I've been seeing him for almost three years now, but it doesn't feel like it helps me as much as it should.
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Been in similar spots. I didn't read the whole thing, because... I won't memorise a daunting wall of text, and there's a tone of self-pity without trying to find solutions which is difficult to sympathise with for too long. I skipped quite a few details.
I'm probably going to sound just like an ESTJ, which almost bothers me (but only almost*)*, but here goes: you definitely need new routines or something. Fix the stuff that applies.
Have you told your parents about any of this? If not, then you should discuss solutions with them. Show them your post, and the comments, if you think it will help to get them on the same track.
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There's a certain theme in your love life I think.
- Looked for love at work.
- Got interested in woman at work.
- Hung around woman at work platonically for years, expecting things to change on its own.
- Girl got taken by superior at work.
- Tries to look for love at work again.
Work, work, work. The risk of getting yourself into serious trouble aside - (I never date classmates or coworkers, period) - you need some kind of life outside of that.
First of all, you'll have to adress the desperation somehow. Seems like you're getting invested in losing people you haven't even earned yet. You'll need to stop that and become more emotionally independent. Try to entertain new thinking patterns that are more productive. I would advise getting started on that way before getting into the dating game.
Learn photography to take a few nice portraits, and maybe improve your fashion sense if you haven't. Blazers are affordable and don't cost much if money is an issue. Maybe get a haircut. Renewal can feel reassuring when you're trying to turn a chapter in your life and start a new one.
Make sure that it truly is your intention to get into a relationship, what you're getting yourself into and you truly understand the commitment, and not just looking for a therapist or somebody to fix you - that's more your job than theirs. If you do, then proceed to make some sort of dating profile to increase your "broadcast radius". I would recommend other apps than Tinder but it depends on how many people use them, and you can get lucky. Proper, regular dates will help you get outside, catch a few rays of sunshine.
Speaking of going outside, don't hang around home too much. Exercise more regularly. Take care of your Se, study your textbooks in a park or café if you can.
Be very aware that you will most certainly have to disappoint a fair number of people in order to find someone you're compatible with. Many women are very clueless and never leave the dating app stage while the good ones leave, so you'll have to keep your wits about you. As for when you find a good woman, don't put her on some pedestal. Treat her like a regular person; people tend to appreciate that.
Learn how to identify and attract ENTPs and ENFPs, who if healthy will be wonderful to you. An INFJ is also a solid choice for many INTJs, but keep in mind that you will probably have to show more initiative there, because they are also awkward introverts just like you. Make an effort to communicate well with these women, because that seems to be one of the common struggles. Frankly, you should start doing that with anyone you intend to date anyway, so might as well train that skill immediately.
As for studies, well, you'll only feel worse about yourself the more you procrastinate. Might as well do it sooner than later. In the meantime you'll have to trust that the strategies you use will pay off, because what you're asking for isn't some overnight change. Slow down the study tempo if you need to, because it might be that the way you're doing things right now is killing your ability to focus. And honestly, if you can't deliver at the current pace, why not slow down a little anyway? Take some time to find your drive again. It's certainly embarassing, sure, but it's probably not permanent and there's no reason to postpone getting your head sorted out sooner rather than later, because it seems like it's going to be a consistent issue for you in the long run.